SOURCES OF ANGER:

BETRAYING YOURSELF

Of course there are many sources of anger. Self-Betrayal is near the top of the list.

1.Things you did that you didn't want to do.

2.Things you did NOT do (or refrained from) that you wanted

to do.

3.Things you permitted or allowed against your better judgment.

4.Things you did that was someone else's intention, not yours.

5.Things you did that you thought you shouldn't have done.

6.Things you did NOT do (or refrained from) that you thought

you should have done.

Ask yourself: “How did I betray myself? How did I compromise beyond my own personal limitation or tolerance? What did I do or allow that I really didn’t want to? Why did I feel I had to?”

Look for as many answers as you can find. The more answers you can think of the less angry you will be. The answers to these questions may tell you that you are actually angry at yourself.

SET-UPS FOR SELF BETRAYAL

1.Things you were planning on.

2.Things you expected.

3.Things you assumed.

You do something you don't want to, or you refrain from doing something you want to, thinking you will get a reward. When that reward doesn't come, you've gotten nothing for it. You feel violated, but the violator was you.

To find out how you set yourself up, ask yourself: “What was I planning, expecting and assuming?”

A POSITION OF WEAKNESS

When you get yourself into a position of weakness or dependency, you set the stage for anger. When you let someone else make decisions or choices you should make, your life goes out of your control. After that it's easy to feel threatened and get angry. If you continue to remain in a position of weakness, more and more problems occur and things get worse and worse.

RESPONSIBILITY/BLAME

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