While dealing with divorcing parents and alcohol and drug abusers I came to realize certain things about emotions which enabled me to help them to de-stimulate a large portion of the unwanted reactive emotions that they were experiencing.
Based on certain principles that I learned I was able to create certain routines and exercises which one could do to immediately reduce reactions and unwanted, unpleasant emotions or feelings.
Some of these principles
are:
1. 85% (or so) of one's "current" feelings are actually old and out of date, and can be separated from the present.
2. Although a person believes that he is reacting to something or someone in his current environment, actually he is reacting to his own thoughts.
3. One never needs (or has to do) anything, unless he wants something that requires it. - By investigating the wants and needs compulsions can be altered.
4. Stress requires strain. You have to strain in order to have stress. Stress is reactive and not under your control. On the other hand, strain is essentially self determined and easily redirected.
5. Power is something everyone has in abundance until they give it away. - Once you realize exactly how and why you gave it away it becomes easy to take it back.
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6.Agreement builds; disagreement destroys.
7. Negative feelings create an emotional barrier that gets in the way of you’re handling your problems. By canceling negative feelings you make it much easier to handle your problems.
These principles actually work whether believed to be true or not.
You will see these and other principles at work in the various Lifetalk First-Aid routines. For a complete list of first-aid remedies look in the First-Aid remedy page. (Still under construction.)
There are two types of First-Aid routines now on this website.
Quick study: Just read it, follow the instructions, and consider what it says. These are mostly in the Managing Life section. Example
Quick Interactive: Click a sequence of links and immediately find out if your feelings have changed for the better. In the Self-Help section.
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