IMPORTANT QUESTIONS
These are things that are important to consider.
QUESTION: If I actually got rid of my bad feelings, would I end up without any emotions?
ANSWER: Separating past from present feelings will not eradicate emotions. It will help you deal with them in a simple and productive way. Because you understand your feelings better, you won’t suppress them or avoid them. You acknowledge them and get over them. Negative feelings won't carry on for as long as they have in the past, and your emotions will become a better expression of your present feelings.
QUESTION: You said negative feelings can be eliminated in a matter of a half hour. Doesn't that seem unnatural?
ANSWER: Take a person who has been angry about something for a year. The point of relief is long overdue. This person should have been over it in a few days, or at the very most a couple of weeks. He's 50 weeks late. He has already had 50 extra weeks of anger eating him up emotionally that are completely unnecessary. There is no good reason why it should go on for another month. In fact, there's no reason why it should go on another minute. But, it will take a while to look at his assumptions and separate out the past feelings.
Here is another example. Let’s say for example that you are depressed. The current situation is actually responsible for only 15% of what you are feeling, but you feel terrible because of all the other feelings that go with it caused by previous situations that are long past. These situations happened a year ago, five years ago, eight years ago, and will take a while to sort out. It might take a couple of hours. However, once it is sorted, you can be released from 85% of those feelings–––immediately. Those events are already over and gone. You just find out, and the feelings evaporate. The feelings that are left are your true, current feelings. They are suddenly manageable, and you can deal with them more easily.
QUESTION: What sort of feelings do the Lifetalk First-Aid procedures work on?
ANSWER: They work on unwanted feelings that have been going on too long. It promotes and strengthens good feelings so as to make life more meaningful and exciting. And, it also deals with purposes. When a person is having trouble motivating himself, it is absolutely certain that he is having trouble with uncomfortable feelings. The system helps discover what feelings are getting in the way and shows how to handle them.
Sometimes people have been afraid to deal with their feelings, but that was only because they were so overwhelmed by them. We like to feel current feelings. It’s feeling alive. When things are going well, we want to relax and enjoy it. We don't want to have a constant worry about "When will it go wrong?" When we do feel bad about something we want to be be in touch with it and do something about it. What we suffer with, what we don't want, is to be continually bothered by bad feelings, mostly from the past, which come back again and again. These are not meaningful or manageable. Those are the feelings to get rid of.
QUESTION: Why is this First-Aid not “therapy”?
ANSWER: This system uses only educational techniques. You see how feelings get tangled up and how they can be unraveled. Understanding this can give you a new lease on life, yet it is still nothing other than a learning experience.
QUESTION: What value is this to an average person?
ANSWER: There isn't anyone who isn't unhappy about something, or who doesn't have at least one thing in his life that isn't handled and keeps coming back to bother him. At work, at home, some person, some situation. Bad feelings are so common that we get the idea that they are a normal part of life. The truth is that they don't have to be.
© Copyright Joseph Belotte 1983,2006
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